I’d like to believe that I am an optimistic person, but the reality is that I’m more pessimistic than most people think. Sometimes, morbid and depressing thoughts just enter my mind and instead of reacting with: Well it doesn’t have to be this way! or Look at the bright side! I just solemnly agree in silence.
What kind of thoughts are these? Well…
- The world will still move on without you. It doesn’t care if you are terminally ill or if someone hurts you and leaves you to rot. It will still shine sunlight onto sparkling waters and give you rainbows and make you see all this beauty even if you are dead and empty inside with no capabilities of truly appreciating how beautiful everything is around you.
- People who tell you, “Don’t worry about finding a partner – you’re young! Go have fun!” It doesn’t matter what age you are – sometimes you just don’t find that person. Age and time is not relevant. You can meet the love of your life when you are 65 years old or when you’re 10 years old. You can also never meet them, it happens.
- You are stuck with yourself for all of your days. If you don’t like yourself, it’s going to be a bad time.
- Half of the people who are happy with themselves are just people who have settled into a version of themselves that is not the best version. They are the people who have decided to be content with being mediocre, or at least they are the people who have accepted that they can’t be or have everything they want in life.
- A lot of people listen only so they can talk.
- There are people in the world who don’t know what music sounds like. Or what a sunset looks like.
- So many people start off kind and giving and then they get stepped on so much that they become huge jerks that just inflict pain on others because that is how they were treated. Kindness is then seen as stupidity.
- Time doesn’t heal wounds. It just makes you care less because it feels so far away from you. Conclusion: caring less means you hurt less. But by doing that, you are also feeling less and I don’t know which one is more sad.
- Time is irrelevant when it comes to finding someone right. There is no such thing as “it was the right person at the wrong time”. They were just not the right person.
- The notion that someone can be “too good”, and instead of trying to make ourselves be better, we make them worse. Or we just push them out of our lives because they make us feel inadequate about ourselves.
Sorry for dampening your spirits. Remember that potatoes can be cooked in like 200 different ways, so we have that going for us.
Sincerely, Loewe
Sincerely, Loewe 
Found myself nodding my head at all 10 of these. #8 is so true. I liked how you finished it with that line about potatoes haha
Btw I’m going to follow you on Twitter and Instagram right after I finish this comment.
Potatoes are life. Matt Damon would’ve died on Mars without potatoes.
Thanks for the follow and for reading!
1. True. You are insignificant in all aspects.
2. Not true. You are vastly more dateable as a young, attractive childless woman than like 95% of the population. If you were like a short, bald, overweight dude who lives in his mother’s basement at the age of 30 maybe you’d be right, but you drew a long straw in terms of the dating world so I think you should look at it more objectively.
3. True.
4. So the other half are happy and not mediocre?
5. Super true.
6. True.
7. True. But on the flip side, there are those who’ve gone through such tragedy and still come out to inspire the rest of the world – like Malala Yousafzai, or that girl who witnessed her mother get raped as they escaped North Korea.
8. True. Especially when you see old people who’ve lived through so much shit or parents who outlive their children. The world goes on, you have no choice.
9. I disagree with this statement on a personal level. I read this Murakami book (Sputnik Sweetheart) where he talks about lovers as orbiting satellites. You each have your own trajectory – sometimes they only cross momentarily, never to cross again, other times they are on parallel planes – never quite reaching each other. If you believe that people are not static their whole biological life, then surely there is a right time and a wrong time.
10. True and sad.
I agree with most of your statements except for the stuff about romance and especially not about 2.
Tim Urban writes about marriage, because he’s older, but still this article is pretty much why I disagree with 2. Dating is a skill just like everything else. -> http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/02/pick-life-partner.html
2. True, you are more date-able at a younger time period of your life, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you find the right person for you, it just means you can find a lot more people. The human desire for love indicates that you will always be looking for the “right person”, whether you currently have a partner or not, because who knows? You may be with someone but that person is not the right person. And because this pursuit of love will always prevail, your chances of finding that right person can arrive to you at any time, as long as you are actively searching.
4. The other half are either not happy or happy but in a state of improvement. I only said half to be “optimistic”. The split is definitely more uneven.
7. True, but I don’t like pointing fingers at the rare success stories, or as I like to call them, the outliers.
10. I also read a book which is where I got this concept from. I don’t remember the title or author, but basically it talked about how there is no “right time” because the right person would be timeless.
These are all SO accurate!! Man so accurate and relatable! Excellent point to!
Thanks for your comment, hope it didn’t dampen any spirits, haha.
No not at all! Actually very validating!! So in a weird way, positive and uplifting.